Public Profiles get behind Imperfectly Perfect Campaign.
“I thought it was important to share that I also suffered severe depression in my thirties and contemplated taking my life. No one knew how I was feeling. On the surface I had the perfect life. Great job, wonderful family and friends but inside I was dying. Daily panic attacks became hourly panic attacks and pretty soon I was making excuses to friends so I didn’t have to leave my apartment. Lucky for me a friend suggested I see a psychologist and she literally saved my life. Two years of therapy and I learned to love myself again and accept that who I am is enough. Please if you ever feel this way there is always someone that will listen. It’s one step at a time but you do matter and you can get through it. Sending much love to all ... keep looking for the light...”
“Imperfectly Perfect is so true and something I thoroughly believe in. Lets help each other, because life is hard enough already”
“Growing up within an Australian masculine culture your often told “you’ll be right” and “don’t be a pussy”, I’ve felt myself and I’m sure its the same for a lot of other young men a sense of shame or embarrassment for having feelings that shows vulnerability. The feeling is bad enough isn’t it? Let alone a sense of shame for having it. Thats why we need to break down this built up world of bravado and show everyone, being vulnerable and brave enough to voice it, is truly masculine in its own beautifully feminine way.”
“I am perfectly imperfect, and when you accept this about yourself and ride that wave. You can make choices that are based on living in a positive light. Every moment in life has a positive and negative charge. It's about how long you choose to live in the negative that matters.”
“I think this is an exceptionally noble cause. It can make a very fundamental difference in starting the conversation. I’ve been in that situation, a period in my life I wasn’t particularly happy with myself and it went on for a little too long and it went unrecognised and it was something I never spoke about. So I never allowed anybody in and it didn’t need to go on that long, and it didn’t need to go that deep and it didn’t need to be that dark - if I just had the tools that I now know how to deal with those past periods.
It is important to talk about it because when men talk about it, then it’s the first step in unlocking the pain and in recognising the situation.”
“It’s spreading a beautiful message that we need to break down the stigma & let everybody know it is not weak to speak & when it comes to Mental Health there is always help.
Mental Health is something that affects us all directly or indirectly & as someone who has lost friends & family to Mental Health it’s something that you cannot put into words; how much you just want to shout out that message from every single rooftop & if you need help, there is help & for whatever reason, somebody may not want to speak about these things; you may think you maybe able to go through it yourself or you may have the notion that you are a burden to someone else. You are not a burden, you will never be a burden. It all starts with a simple conversation & knowing there is help”
“I was super excited to be apart of glenn campaign as it is directly linked to the work I do in mental health advocacy. I love the authenticity of this campaign, the quality of the images and clear messages that are coming from it. We cannot do enough to educate people about the importance of speaking out about mental health.”
“I want to scream. I want to cry. I want to feel something again.’ I finally reached breaking point- where I realised I needed help. After six sessions with a psychologist (and also discovering a severe vitamin D deficiency- blood tests are so important), I was able to get my mental health back on track. I was able to finally open up to those who cared about me the most, and I was able to fall back in love with my passion.”
“Mental Health is the number one cause of death for men in Australia. It is the number one cause of young adults. Mental health is the most critical issue facing Australia at the moment and its time we talk about it. Recently I wrote a TV show that was based around suicide, something that I have dealt with in my life through friends, colleagues and family. I’ve had more suicide deaths in my life than cancer. I think its time we deal with mental health head on, we need to talk about our feelings and let our children know its completely ok to have feelings, good and bad, bit that its important to let them out. Life isn’t always as it seems, we don’t post of social media about the days that we wished we didn’t get out of bed or the days we didn’t feel like it, most people feel the pressure to keep up with everyones ‘perfect’ life. My grandfather told me to never judge anyone unless you walked in their shoes, its great advice that I live by, as its important to know whats really going on behind someones smile, or even their angry demeanour. The point I’m trying to make is many Australians are suffering and doing so in silence. As a country, its time to ease the pressure, stop expecting people to be perfect and start talking openly about feelings with people you trust.”
‘The pain of a mate taking his own life stays with you. It’s always there. & it certainly isn’t pretty. That’s why I accepted the invitation of @glenn_marsden to put my face & feelings into his @imperfectlyperfectcampaign. I’ve spoken before about the loss of my friend, the wildly talented & generous Richard Marsland. It’s been 10 years, but I remember that phone call so vividly. Men in particular still struggle to share emotion, or ask for help if their having a shit time. It’s ok to be struggling. There’s incredible support both personally & professionally to get you through it. I’ve seen it happen & it works. My motivation in sharing this photo is to cut through the superficial smiles we see on social media. No one is that happy all the time. & that’s ok. Check in on your mates. Know that their first response will be “I’m all good” or “she’ll be right”, but if they seem off or unusually flat, dig for the second & third response. The real response. & then simply make sure they know they’re loved & supported, and keep checking in. I want to thank Glenn for making this confronting experience as comfortable as two men crying in a tiny photography studio could be. But if we’re not willing to show that side of ourselves, why would anyone else? That’s the point.
‘Endometriosis can have a cruel & unexplained grip that leaves you feeling you’ve completely lost control of your mind and body.
It’s an internalised, hidden, silent pain. Yet it’s a pain impacting one in ten Australian women. Beyond that it entangles partners, friends, families and careers in its complex web.’
That’s why the @imperfectlyperfectcampaign is so significant - it’s a reminder that behind each resilient smile is an untold story.
We need to learn that it’s ok to be vulnerable.
And it’s a gift to speak up.
“It’s a really important message for me. Mental Health is something that has affected people around me who I really care about and love and it’s a really delicate, tricky issue because it comes in a lot of different disguises. Particularly in this country, Mental Health for young men is a huge issue and something I feel it’s important to talk and bring light to. I am really privileged to work alongside all of the wonderful people who have been apart of this campaign.”
“ I just wanted to send the message that everyone should hear. I think everyone suffers from depression different levels for different reasons & I think the 1st thing that can help get away from that is talking and even writing. I think, look after your mates, pick up the phone, have a chat every now and then. I think it’s important and the beginning of a change”
“I am so honoured to be an ambassador for the Imperfectly Perfect Campaign. Mental health is such an important issue at the moment with so many people suffering from unprecedented mental distress. We have anxiety and depression at epidemic levels. We have suicide numbers on the rise. Yet there is hope......I’ve learned that no matter how difficult things seem, there is always hope. And I’ve learned that no matter how powerless we feel or how horrible things seem, we can’t give up. We must keep going. This is why talking and getting help is paramount”
“I believe that social media is a huge contributor to young people’s depression and distorted view of themselves and their own lives and has been used as a vehicle for spreading messages of hate and bullying people, including someone I loved, to suicide. However I also believe that it is equally a very powerful platform to generate unity, understanding and support. I hope this campaign can help people talk, share, understand and support each other and allow us to avoid more tragic and unnecessary loss.”
“With the current suicide rate around 1 every 40 seconds and an alarming increase in teen suicides its important to understand it is more often than not a silent killer. what glenn has done is bring some vital awareness through raw and compelling imagery which I believe will make a huge impact in showing that anyone of us can endure issues and its ok to speak out. as a cause very close to my heart and my families I think we need to start not only connecting with those we love but also loving and understanding others and being compassionate.”
Paul De Gelder
“I’ve been through it, somewhat as well. when I was a teenager I went through some form of depression and that flowed on to self harm where I used to cut my arms up and that was a pretty rough time of my life and I felt like I was alone. Having a good support network that I found I could talk was crucial. So I think its very important that we don’t forget that this is very prevalent in our society. We all know its there but sometimes we just need a reminder”
‘I feel really happy to be apart of this campaign. Glenn is an incredible soul that I have got to know & so passionate about this project & saving lives is such a noble thing that you can do ever. We are losing so many people to Mental Health & it’s a conversation that we cannot have enough of. I have lost 3 people that I have known personally. My mother, committed suicide. My birth mother & I spent my whole life looking for her & she was in a dark place & I knew she was in a dark place but if I could go back and just shake her out of it & just let her know that she was so loved & she is so missed, and as a woman aging in entertainment losing Charlotte Dawson & Annalise Braakensiek seeing these women my age just turn the light out & listen to the voices that tell them they are not good enough, is just wrong; so wrong. We shouldn’t be losing lives to this. I’ve had a son who was severely bullied when he was younger and he made a video, a goodbye video and I found it. Again, it’s so wrong.
So talk, speak, know that you are loved, know that your life is meant to go on for as long as it possibly can & please reach out; don’t be along and think this is your last day because it is not and it shouldn’t be. We are all imperfectly Perfect. Nobody is living a perfect life and you are just one of us and you should stay and live & love & laugh as long as humanly possible.”
“I was drawn to the imperfectly perfect campaign as it’s such a unique and creative way to raise awareness and hopefully spread some compassion. We need to keep communicating to empower people to speak up and take a stand for themselves.”
“I think its important to raise awareness for mental health esp for young boys and men like myself. Especially in terms of anxiety which I’ve definitely dealt with in the past , but u don’t really start getting better until u start asking questions and getting help and I think something like this what glenn is doing is important to start a conversation.”
“However you are feeling, many others are feeling the same. Daily. Hourly. The challenge is to recognise we all sometimes feel we are just getting by, and to be open, sharing our thoughts and experiences. Talking about stuff makes it easier to handle. Before it takes over your life.”
“It saddens me to think that those closest to me might not be as they appear on the outside. We need to remember that it’s okay to not be okay and I think people would be overwhelmed by the support that friends and family can offer if they just open up and be honest. It’s extremely satisfying to ask someone if they are alright and in turn, be asked yourself. I chose to get on board with this project to get people talking and I’ve already had several people genuinely ask me if I’m okay because of it. Speak up, ask, and listen. Friends can be more powerful, calming, caring, open and supportive than you might think and we have them for a reason.”
“Mental illness is just like any other illness or medical condition that needs attention. If I walked in with a broken leg it would be treated without question. Mental illness deserves the same transparency and understanding. It doesn't discriminate and there is nothing to be ashamed of. If you personally have not suffered in this way, then I am almost certain you know someone who has. Campaigns like the Imperfectly Perfect as so crucial to making sure that people know that as alone as they may feel - they're not. Help is there.”
“A man is someone who should be able to talk about their feelings and feel no shame. Your mental health is more valuable than any job, relationship or situation that you find yourself in. Men should be encouraged to take care of it, instead of saying ‘I’m Fin and putting one foot infant of the other. Its ok to be venerable.”
“ I’d think the only thing more exhausting than going through something mentally is pretending like you aren’t to everybody else. This has to change.
Everyone is affected either directly or indirectly by somebody who has problems with their mental health. I think the dialogue at the moment isn’t as helpful as it could be. I think we should all be able to feel comfortable talking about mental health.”
“Mental health is a difficult conversation, but one that needs to be heard. This is not an easy (yet very rewarding!) industry to be a part of; with the constant scrutiny of your image, performance and personal life. Mental illness runs rife in my family, and my way of continuing to stay mentally healthy is to communicate through the difficult days, and allowing myself to wholly celebrate the successes when they do come. Life is a beautiful thing. Never forget that.”
“ Suicide and Depression have affected me directly through one of my best friends, who actually jumped in front of a train last year, and that knocked me around for a year. I've had family members as well affected. It’s good for us to talk, its good for us to get out there and not be ashamed. It’s good for us to cry and good to share with a friend. I hope this affects you in some way that you can talk”
martin dingle wall
“I am getting behind @glenn_marsden ‘s campaign as mental health still seems to be linked to shame & therefore confined to the shadows where it thrives. I think we need to be far more open about the frailties of the human condition & via communication go so far as alchemize them into strengths. We must work through fear till it’s just not scary any more.’
“Mental health has always been a sensitive and nuanced topic. But so many of our lives have been touched by it in some way. It’s a subject that’s just too close to home to ignore. While we continue to learn more about mental health every day and collectively work to dissolve the stigma that comes with it, we know the positive impact simply talking to each other can have. The best thing we can all do, right now, is reach out to find or offer love, support and company wherever we can. Thankfully campaigns like @imperfectlyperfectcampaign exist to help us make that start. Through the simple act of meaningful conversation, we’ve unlocked the immense power of connection. It’s here that we’ve taken a big step towards helping someone in need and it can mean more to them than we’ll know. I’m very proudly standing behind the cause.”
“Glenn’s campaign is vital because it sensibly acknowledges the dark, potentially thunderous clouds in an industry renowned for its depiction of clear blue skies and sunny days. The fact that it felt grassroots by someone who understood the industry and not by a big organisation was what drew me to it.”
“The worst kind of pain is the invisible type, when people can’t see what you’re going through . . . When they can’t see they can’t understand. 1 in 10 women have the silent chronic illness that is Endometriosis. The pain and the struggle that endo women go through is incredibly difficult, often being abandoned by partners or put in the too hard basket by friends. Mental health issues amongst sufferers is high, we need you to understand our silent pain. We are resilient but we need to end the silence.”
“I just wanted to say that communication is the key. To be imperfectly perfect is to be open and involved and engaged with life and sometimes that kind of costs you a bit. There aint nothing wrong with having a hard time and it certainly isn’t weak to speak or stay silent.”
“Looking back on my 'darker' days, or 'darkest' days, I mostly remember feeling incredibly lonely. I wasn't necessarily 'alone' for I had people around me and I definitely had friends, but no one really knew the full extent of how sad or hopeless I was feeling. I felt silly or ashamed and most of all, I felt like a burden. Most of the people around me seemed to 'have it together', or so I thought, so I hid how I was feeling. It was a viscous cycle. And a lonely one. I was lucky enough to get some help along the way, and looking back now I can't believe how low I really was. With the help of my amazing boyfriend at the time I found an incredible therapist who helped me work through a lot of stuff. I was lucky. Some people try therapy and when they don't find the right 'fit' right away they give up. I was blessed in the fact that I found an amazing one first go, but I know this isn't always the case. My advice would be don't give up on finding help or the right person to talk to. A great psychologist and the right support around you really can change your life. It changed mine. I still have my good days and bad days like everyone, but being on top of my mental health is something that I will make a priority for the rest of my life. The same goes for loving myself and being kinder to myself. We all deserve to be happy and feel loved, and we deserve that love first and foremost from ourselves. Mental illness doesn't discriminate. I got behind @imperfectlyperfectcampaign because I want to help normalise the talk around mental illness in everyday life and situations and break the negative stigma.Opening up the forum for people to talk openly and honestly is the best thing we can do. There is no shame in mental illness, but I think suffering in silence is nothing short of a tragedy. I don't want anyone to ever feel the way that I was feeling. It's possible that one day you, or someone you know might, and I truly hope by that point mental health struggles are something we are all experts on picking up on and tackling together. Please be kind to you and take great care of yourself. And each other”
“I recently learnt ‘Anxiety’ is a fairly new term. Which surprised me but then also didn’t. It didn’t surprise me when thinking about memories of fainting as a kid and being told it could be epilepsy. Or when I got so nervous as a teenager I would faint and for the first option presented was anorexic. Or when I was a guest on Celebrity Family Feud and was close to hitting the deck due to ‘nerves’. I’m not a nervous person, unable to perform who chooses not to eat to stay skinny and the results were all negative in my potential epilepsy as a 3 year old. I have and always have had anxiety. Not just a tight chest every now and then but an entire system that lives in fright, fear, survival. From day to day events that don’t usually present reasons to be scared or fearful. Its utterly exhausting. But it is also isn’t the same as depression. Please don’t lug them as one. Its complex. Mostly, I can live happily, confidently, successfully (depending on your definition of success) but under lying i’m working a little harder than someone who isn’t fighting against their plumbing. Understand, just like more understood medical symptoms - issues caused from mental health aren’t chosen. Or turned up or down. Or controllable. We too are trying to remind ourselves this most of the time so it would help if we didn’t have to remind you to. remind you that we aren’t able to just try harder or that its a possibility to try and ‘shake’ it off. Surely a cancer patient would never be asked this. Just because we don’t know the same amount of info on anxiety, depression etc doesn’t mean its not as real. It is for me. It is for many of us.”
“ For somebody to get to such a dark place that they think its easier for them to take their lives than it is for them to carry on living in this world is a pretty sort of thought. It’s something, I believe can be reduced by people talking more openly about mental illness”
“So look me in the eyes, tell me what you see Perfect paradise tearing at the seams I wish I could escape, I don't wanna fake I wish I could erase it, make your heart believe” -Imagine Dragons Coming from some personal dark times, I never felt like my feelings had merit. I looked around, saw the life I had, & judged myself for being someone who, in a room filled with light, felt clouded in a black mist. I remember once being asked, “how I would describe my mood” and I responded, that I felt like a small wooden boat, no oars, just floating in an ocean, with no direction, no purpose, isolated & alone. But, at the time, I felt like I needed to have had more trauma in my life to warrant these feelings. I hadn’t been through enough to deserve them. I suppressed my feelings because no one “should” feel that way. It’s not “normal”. To the outsiders I was a healthy, happy human. But on the inside, I was crumbling. And couldn't explain why. I look back at the absurdity of thinking I needed to deserve having a mental health issue, or somehow my problems weren’t valid. I strongly believe that we need change the stigma that you have to justify having depression, anxiety, and a myriad of other mental health issues. And be aware that appearing happy & fulfilled, doesn’t always mean you are. And that’s okay. But we then need to stop holding ourselves to unattainable happiness. We shouldn’t have to feel that we need to justify mental health. Feelings don’t follow reason and logic, so why then should mental health? And when we see those who seem to have it altogether, remember that the people who appear happy all the time, very often aren’t. I would just love people to understand that they are never alone. And that you, your feelings, your experiences, are valid. Don’t stay silent.”
“I think finding compassion during hard times is the most important thing in this world - for others and ourselves.
Going through heartache and pain is part of being human.
It’s something we all share. And sometimes even a good a sign that your heart is alive - and working.
I’m grateful to have been asked to be part of this beautiful campaign... I like the idea of embracing our “imperfections” - our soft and vulnerable side. I think that authenticity is what most people are yearning for right now - and probably why many feel disconnected or depressed after looking at social media.
I’ve lost two friends to suicide.. and nearly lost a few more.
At the moment, one is in hospital, unable to walk and barely able to talk - after trying to numb his pain.
He now has severe brain damage.
Another friend took their life last year, moments after a hospital let her walk free. These stories hurt to speak about, but I imagine this pain is nothing compared with what they were going through every single day. They were strong for too long.
We’re sort of sold an idea that great people are never weak - and never broken. Brave or wonderful people are supposed to be happy, and ‘together’ all the time. But that couldn’t be further from the truth. The most inspiring people I’ve met or interviewed, are the ones who’ve truly experienced pain and darkness.. and have come out the other end - shining like stars.
They usually have deep empathy, compassion and time for others - once they get through.
Their heartache has given them the capacity to be fully present.
But most only get there with support from others.
So thank you @glennmarsden for shining a light for those struggling. I am very grateful that more people are finding new ways to tell each other: you are not alone.
And maybe more importantly: please don’t be ashamed about your pain”
“Sometimes the strongest amongst us are the ones who smile through the silent pain, cry behind closed doors and fight battles that nobody knows about. There is nothing in this world that can trouble you as much as your own thoughts”
“I think it is very important to talk about mental health. Make it visible. Make it the norm to ask if people are ok! It seems important to me that we shatter the facade, the idea that life is meant to be perfect. Life can be tough and for some people it feels very far from perfect. If we allow for more discussion to be had around anxiety, depression and feeling alone we allow for more people to understand that it’s not uncommon. It’s not something to be ashamed of. We all need love and we all need to feel like we belong. And we all need a little extra help at some point in our lives.”
“On the outside I’m happy and smiling, inside I may be falling apart and making it up as I go. Everyday at least one in six Australians die from suicide and a further 30 attempt to take their own life. MEN are at greatest risk of suicide but are still least likely to seek HELP! An estimated 72% of males don’t seek help for mental disorders.”
“ I believe that mental health is something that we, as men especially need to start talking about. Where I come from in New Zealand, it has a really high suicidal rate but nobody likes to talk about it because they believe it makes you less of a man. But for me, it makes you more of a man when you are able to come together with your mates and brothers and talk about the issues what goes on in your head so that we can keep on looking after each other.”
“I absolutely love the term “Imperfectly Perfect”. To me, it says exactly what we all are. You are exactly who you should be and I think this campaign is wonderful because by talking we are getting people actively speaking out about Mental Illness & Mental Health.
It’s something that I have suffered myself from for a very long time & have no shame about talking about; whether it be my treatments or my medications & I think it’s really important to tell everyone that we are who we are & even the flaws that we don’t like about ourselves; these are the things what make us so Imperfectly Perfect.
I think the more we talk, the more vulnerable we get, the more support we give each other, the more we encourage each other to have a chat about how we are feeling, the better.”
“ Mental Health Awareness is such a big problem - as someone who has experienced panic attacks until I was about 20-21 years old that someone asked if I had anxiety. I didn’t even know what the word anxiety was and if I did I defiantly didn’t think I had it. After all, i’m a man, men can’t show weakness right? The frustration I feel now is I don’t know how many wasted months and years I have spent in an anxious state trying to battle it in my head all because I didn’t even know it was a problem and that if it was a problem, who do I talk to, who could’ve helped me. “
CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST DR.EMMANUELLA
“ It’s not easy to ask for help but it is brave, necessary, and helpful. When you seek help you are telling yourself you are important too. Helping yourself can also inspire others to do the same. I meet with so many people who inspire me everyday. They touch my life in ways they will never know. So, if I don’t say this enough, thank you for asking for help. It’s an amazing gift to yourself and others. Thank you Glenn for all the work you are doing to help chip away at the stigma surrounding mental health. Stigma can stop people from asking for help. So let’s keep talking about mental health, spreading these wonderful messages, and let people know we do care. “
“ I have touched the darkness but been lucky enough to come out of it. I have had people around me though who weren’t so fortunate. An ex-boyfriend who suicided, one who thought that hitting me would make him feel better and friends who pull away because they don’t know how to share what they are going through. In a lot of these instances they are men. The statistics around this are staggering. Men are more likely to feel depression and anxiety than women and less likely to seek help. If you drill down into the numbers, suicide is the number one killer of men under the age of 44. How do we as women then, let them know that we are open and ready to take on anything they want to share. I think about this a lot with a son who is growing into a world that is slowly losing its connectedness. I want to tell him that its ok to be afraid and that its ok to talk about it. he gets it and I just hope he always will”
“Mental health has been a big part of my life. I worked in mental health for many years and I have seen the potential and destruction of mental illness. The potential is to heal and the destruction can take someones life. I believe the key to helping mental health is awareness and education, not only for the person suffering but their family and friends. The truth is everyone needs to be educated because everyone knows someone who is suffering or who has suffered. They may be struggling with their own mental health and do not have the right tools to understand it and therefore heal. It took me a very long time to understand my own battles with depression and how it can destroy your life if one does not seek help.”
‘There are so many inherent dangers of hiding mental and emotional issues from your friends and loved ones, in the misguided belief that you are somehow protecting them, or that they have enough to worry about without adding to it.’
If you’re not ready talk to those around you, and trust me it takes time, then talk to a professional.
Recently I spoke at an event which strives to raise awareness of the types of health issues (both mental & physical) that tens of 1000’s of Aussie Men are going through. . I spoke specifically about a particular part of the Australian Male Pysche which I feel hampers on many men from reaching out when they are struggling mentally or emotionally. . The truth is everybody’s problems matter. No one has more of a right than anyone to ask for help. . Sometimes you just have to have the strength to open up to those around you.”
“ I really wanted to be apart of the campaign because life can be great and it can suck sometimes and I think we should share both sides with each other. We should also open our ears to the good times and the bad times as well. If we can be a little more aware of how well we are listening and how well we are communicating our feelings then that small awareness can make a big difference to how we all feel day to day. Thats how I reckon we make a difference. The small steps.”
‘Life can be beautiful but amongst the beauty are obstacles, trauma and stresses which challenge our perception of life and happiness. Sadly this is the case for nearly all of us with life throwing up pothole after pothole. Some potholes can swallow us whole that darkness and isolation creep in, at which point a compassionate ear or professional help can be a shining light. I’ve lost friends to depression and suicide and only hope that we have all have the opportunity to have a shining light in our darkest moments. Be healthy, be happy.’
‘I’m proud to be apart of the @imperfectlyperfectcampaign . I don’t know anyone that hasn’t been affected by mental health in some way. Whether that being personally or by way of losing a friend or family member. It’s time we all work together to help each other. Talk to each other, listen to each other & most importantly reduce the stigma around mental health that is something to be ashamed of. Because it isn’t. You are not alone.’
“ Mental Health doesn’t just affect the individual, it affects their family and friends and the community at large. I think the sooner we treat the conversation with more of a collective sensibility, the better it will be for everyone touched by the issue”
“I’m extremely happy to come on board the @imperfectlyperfectcampaign , I think the title speaks to a lot of people, because in this world we are taught we need to conform to a certain society we are in and to be perfect to fit in, esp with social media. I guess growing up working in film and TV - you have to look a certain way and act a certain way and I was working with kids so it’s always having on a bright happy face even if you may not feel that way. Luckily I am like that the majority of the time but I’ve found with a job like that the highs can bring just the same amount of lows & I think that really only came true to me when I was out of a job & felt like everything I’d achieved had been done. I didn’t feel like there was too much more for me & I really started dealing with anxiety & feeling very alone, the dark cloud followed, and I started realising that mental health is so prevalent and a real thing that is so important to focus on . So I think if we can all get together, speak out & speak the truth about how we feel, the word can touch so many people & make everyone feel like there is someone out there to talk to and you actually are not alone.”
“I think a lot of people are suffering from mental health these days. There’s a lot of pressure out there and it does not discriminate and it does not bias.
I am very proud to be supporting the imperfectly perfect campaign. There are so many reasons why people are struggling with their mental health and similarly there are so many reasons why people are not able to talk about it. It really does come down to discussions around what people are struggling through.
If you know somebody or you think you know somebody that you may be able to reach out to , I encourage you to find a way to start that conversation with them.
You may find that you transform someones life or even save it. We are all in this together so lets look out for each other.”
“ You may be young. You may change your mind. But right now what you feel and identify with is valid.
For a lot of my early part of my life, I struggled with my sexuality and accepting it. I found it really hard to come to terms with, I still find it really hard to come to terms with and its about whats going on inside of your head. I know there’s lots of people that love me, but sometimes we can tell ourselves something in our head and thats why this campaign is so important.
Sometimes its just not enough for our friends to tell us we are ok, we need help. Professional help. We need to be able to talk to someone.”
“ I used to be so ashamed of my scars I hid them with clothes, with make-up, with tattoos... so I could pretend they weren’t there, and therein lies the problem, they are nothing to be ashamed of or hidden. They are not a sign of weakness but of strength, it was not a good way to cope, but I DID cope, and I got through those dark times by reaching out and asking for help. I am not an actor or a model and I can’t sing to save my life, I am an ordinary person - depression and anxiety don’t just affect one group, they can affect anyone and everyone at any time, it sneaks up on you so you don’t even notice it at first, and then it’s all there is.”
Dr. Hayley watson
“I so often catch myself thinking that I need to be “perfect” and “happy” and if I’m not there must be something “wrong”. But these thoughts are the true source of all my struggles, because it’s only when I actually stop and embrace my pain that I find true wisdom, contentment, and passion in my life. I feel so lucky that I get to help other people find their true power from within their darkest places, and I hope that through this campaign more people feel confident in reaching out for help and guidance when they need it most. None of us can do this alone!!”
‘I call it the ‘Pedestal Paradox’. The danger in placing someone on a pedestal, is that they're assumed to lead this perfect, bulletproof life and have it all together. . Because of that perception, a lot of people actually won't ask, "Are you ok? How are you?". They equate success with happiness, and so they stop asking. It's a scary epidemic, especially in my industry. And a huge reason why so many people struggle with depression, anxiety, addiction or worse. . I know firsthand, because I’ve personally experienced it (still do...). I also don’t have it all together - not even close. And that’s ok. . No matter how big or exciting someone's life might look, it's important to remember that people are, and always will be, just people. We all bleed and we all need each other.’
‘I wanted to cry...I wanted to sit on the floor and bawl my eyes out! I wanted to run and hide til the pain and anxiety went away, but I’m a mum, I can’t. Instead I say ‘hold yourself together...you’re a mum’ so I pick myself up, put on a brave face, settle a screaming child and go to work. Riddled with guilt. Exhausted. But it’s not about me anymore...it’s about them, because I’m a mum.’ Being a parent is the hardest adjustment in your life and sometimes you think you’re ok when you’re not. It’s ok if you can’t juggle it all, no one is super human, even parents. You’re not alone but it is the hardest time to talk. You think everyone is nailing it but you. There is nothing wrong with saying being a parent is hard, or I’m not enjoying it or maybe I’m not ok. At times it leads to dark places but, you put a brave face on because it means more to you than any other thing you’ve ever done in your life.
Thank you Glenn from the bottom of my heart. The campaign you have created and the voice you have given to the hidden pain of mental health is enormous. Breaking barriers is so important and allowing people to share their stories and let others know they are not alone is truely incredible. The Imperfectly Perfect campaign is what the world needs to move forward with the conversation of mental health! Thank you x